Why haven't i been here for a while? LOL where do i start?
Seriously though same old same old,I am feeling way over whelmed and my stress is taking physical tolls..I am eventually going to see a dr as this is getting crazy, going to try other options 1st then if need be will do dr route.
I am short of breath all day all night,exhausted and severe pains in back chest ribs and occasionally abdomen,dizzy spells nausea etc....I do NOT have depression thank the lords,so no need for meds for that..I am on ginsing and multivitamins,but need to rule out low iron and or low blood sugar etc.
Anyways moving on..I am overwhelmed and over my head..Had HUGE blow out with my son this morning..He is 12 and REALLY a botton pusher calls me names and insults me and so on..As well as breaking things he broke the broom by repeadidly banging it on the chair and it broke(the handle)
He was also kicking in the wall and punching the wall and throwing things around the room,screaching etc..
He is my ex's child(tho not biologically)and acts as he saw his father do..
Anyways i am not one for whining so will not do it now..
I am just tired,confused overwhelmed and STRESSED..I need a break so bad and my daughter's sweet 16 is this weekend..I will be taking her and my other daughter(gaby) to the spa for girl day and then to lunch and movie and dinner at Boston Pizza.
I am really hoping to relax on Sat(when I am doing all this) and ya know "zone" a little bit..
Anyways as i said I am not one to whine or complain..
But life is seriously confusing to me right now..Somethings are not,couldn't be more clear and others are confusing..
For example the Secret well and good and yeah i have read parts and am a fan BUT,I cannot embrace it totally..For example this morning in local news a man holding his baby daughter(1 yr old) were attcked by bear mace and hammers.
During a hotel robbery(they were innocent bystanders)The baby Goddess bless her, is ok and so is daddy both in hosp but will survive..
BUT according to the secret the sweet baby asked for this on herself and he did too..i DO not agree and can't..She got the FULL potent mace in her face and mouth.
I am trying daily as a single momma to do the best i can and struggling with bills and temper tantrums and physical ailments and i am falling short..I am doing all I can and it still seems to be not enough..
Anyways I am here I am ok,just REALLY exhausted and stressed and ready to throw in the towel.
I can certainly sympathize with feeling overwhelmed. This sure seems to be the time of year for it. I probably need to write my own post why I haven't been on here as well.
I am dealing with son (18) acting as he saw his father do, too. It's the pits isn't it? I saw today on one of the shows that when behaviors like this surface after having a parent act that way, it is the kid wanting not to identify with the powerless parent, so they identify with the powerful parent (no matter how dysfunctional the behavior is). Hope that makes some sense.
Anyway, keep taking your own advice ... just keep breathing. Things will get better.
I have seen your kind of situation before. It seems that many family members have the same situation. It’s hard when you have a child who’s not yours and they are acting out. Not sure how your relationship is with the boys father but I would have a talk with him first to get the kid some help and or make the child understand that he shouldn’t speak to you in that way, and or destroy your things.
As far as the Secret I agree there is no way that a innocent child can possibly attract such violence. However the other person (the assailant) is capable of having their ambition (power or energy) over rule or bully the child or the fathers unaware energy into a state of submission. I see it in my life all the time the person who wants something more can easily obtain something that is truly a better fit for someone else. They may think that they need it more then the other person so they just simply put more energy into what ever it is they want.
So if you really want to focus your intentions on having things better (it must always be stronger then this kids intention).
Have you tried any spell work? I know that my life has had some hellish things that were going terribly wrong. But a freezing spell literally chills the situation out.
I do hope you get the relaxation that you obviously deserve and wish your daughter a wonderful Happy Birthday
Hi darlin,
You are doing fine with the kids, don't ever doubt that. i know you are cause i have seen it. Take a breath, get in your zone with your music when you can and enjoy saturday with the girls.
jas
I wonder why your son continues to act this way? It just bothers me, not only because he has seen and learned this behavior, but it comes from somewhere deeper. Of course, it could just be boredom...
Yes, you should breathe, and getting a girls day out will be great for you, but don't forget getting out on your own...it's something you need too!!
I think you may also be experiencing a bit of summer blues as well...the Secret can only help a person so much, then the person has to help themselves.
As for the mace...accidents happen to all kinds of people...no one brings a lot of things on themselves, unless they continue to let things happen....karma doesn't always bite a person in the butt when they are just trying to get from one moment to the next, especially an innocent little child...or a parent for that matter. I think the message of the Secret may just be to stop letting the world walk all over you, and start walking IN the world...does this make sense?
You need to go out when you can and meet new people, men and women who share your interests and something in common with you...maybe you will find the ONE thing you are looking for in the future.
I am sorry I haven't been around for the past few days, been sick from the heat, and heart sick over other things in my own little world...I will stop over more often!
Nat,
Gramma StormSending energy your way.
I can certainly sympathize with feeling overwhelmed. This sure seems to be the time of year for it. I probably need to write my own post why I haven't been on here as well.
I am dealing with son (18) acting as he saw his father do, too. It's the pits isn't it? I saw today on one of the shows that when behaviors like this surface after having a parent act that way, it is the kid wanting not to identify with the powerless parent, so they identify with the powerful parent (no matter how dysfunctional the behavior is). Hope that makes some sense.
Anyway, keep taking your own advice ... just keep breathing. Things will get better.
Hugs
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